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I love to read and now that I have children it is really hard to find the time and energy to do so, but I always try to read for a few minutes before bed every night. I am going to post a new book every month, whether it is about parenting, a kids book, or a book I read just for fun. This post can be treated as a book club and I welcome other people to comment if you have read any of these books. Everyone always interprets things differently and it’s a great place to start a conversation about the topics.
When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, my pediatrician recommended I read Siblings Without Rivalry
“We’ve been looking at our own childhood and our children’s childhood, and what we seen to be saying so far is that our relationships with our siblings can have a powerful impact upon our early lives, producing intense feelings, positive or negative; that these same feelings can persist into our adult relationships with our brothers and sisters; and finally, that these feelings can be passed on to the next generation.” Siblings Without Rivalry
There are several key points throughout the book that explain why siblings may or may not have a good relationship and most of the time is depends on how the parents react to arguments and or how parents might compare their children. It all seems so obvious not to compare your children, but believe it or not I find myself doing it all the time without even realizing it, “your sister is such a great sleeper, why do you have so much trouble?”. My kids are really young so they do not understand what it means to be compared, but as they get older it will only put more strain on their relationship if I do not try to control this now. This book goes into great detail on how to change the way you talk to your children, how to mediate an argument and give our kids the tools they need to encourage cooperation. The authors use real life situations and cartoon graphics to help understand each possible outcome.
I originally got this book from the library and ended up purchasing it because I want to reference back to it whenever I can. I know as my children get older it will be an amazing resource for me and my husband. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I do!
